I tend to obsess. A lot. And for the past several days, gay marriage has been an unescapable thought in my mind. For the record, I am not gay. Still, I have been blessed with a social conscience that borders on the annoying. Even Hugh often acknowledges my revolutionary tendencies by referring to me as his Sandinista girlfriend (though I am not Nicaraguan).
My views on marriage have “evolved” as I’ve gotten older; but unlike President Obama, I am not talking about just gay marriage. Even though I was born into a marriage, and was raised within the confines of a home created by marriage, as far as I was concerned marriage had no point or purpose.
As I have gotten older though, I have become more accepting of the concept even if it isn’t something I necessarily want for myself. It’s kind of like my views on abortion: pro-choice for humanity, pro-life for Annush.
At this point, I believe that anyone who wants to get married should be able to.
I first learned about North Carolina’s Amendment 1 last week while I was at the gym. To be completely honest, I was so upset by it that I literally cried (though to be fair I was PMSing). It upset me because not only is it promoting hatred and discrimination towards gays by writing in the constitution that they can not marry, also by banning all civil unions it is taking away the choice to NOT marry from those who can.
“Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State…”
When I learned the Amendment passed, I was beside myself.
Hugh and I live in a committed domestic partnership that we hope will last forever. However, it is not in our plans to marry. I find it insane that unless we get married, were we to move to North Carolina, we would essentially be considered roommates. Though I guess that’s better than not being allowed to be together at all because until 1971 the NC Constitution banned interracial marriages and ours is an interracial relationship…
Heterosexual rights aside, I feel really bad for the gays. It is one thing to not want to exercise a right, and something entirely different to be deprived of rights or have rights taken away just because some consider good morals to discriminate against those who are different.
Yesterday President Obama said that he now believes that everyone should have the right to marry. About time! Whether or not individuals choose to exercise this right or not is their prerogative, but I hope that by making this statement, he will help bring us closer to being a nation where we all share the same rights and responsibilities.
The Declaration of Independence says that “all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” It stands to reason that this can be interpreted to mean that we are all free to build a life with the one who makes us happy.
If the basis of society is family, let’s embrace all families in whatever form they come.
In the end, we’ll all be better for it.