Every day I like to set goals for myself. They don’t have to be anything big, just something (or somethings) to give my day meaning. That has become especially important since I became a stay at home girlfriend.
People underestimate the value of a stay at home partner. I know that in the past I have. But let me tell you that my previous accomplishments, which were usually tied up to a paycheck, seem tiny in comparison to what I feel I must accomplish every single day to justify being home.
…and coincidentally, not everything that I do is for the benefit of my home even though every action I perform reflects in how I handle my home…
The other day, a friend asked me what I did to maintain my sanity when so much of what I do has so little to do with me. I gave this question a lot of thought because I wasn’t sure of what this meant. Then the answer came to me and it was a sad unfortunate NOTHING. I spent so much time worrying about the causes I support, my volunteer work, my COO duties at home, and my role as a care giver to my loved ones that I hadn’t worried about the things that would make me a better person in the long run.
The only thing I have ever done for myself that has actually made a difference in how I see and react to the world is running. For years, I was that girl whose life was centered around work and fitness. My running came to a halt last year when I was sick and then when I was finally able to get back to it, it seemed unimportant and even shallow. I started working out because it was something you are supposed to do and not something that makes your life better.
These days that has changed.
Among the many goals I set for myself every day, I have started to include running as one and let me tell you that in the time I’ve been seriously pursuing it, I can see the difference in the way I approach everything else. Every time I meet one of my running goals, I feel empowered and this has awakened and created a better version of me.
The world moves really fast. And with all the responsibilities we all have both inside and outside of the home, it is easy to forget that everything we do is affected by what goes on within us.
I would like to invite you to think about what you do for yourself to maintain your sanity. Do you run? Do you paint? Do you write? If you can’t think of a single thing that benefits only you but that affects your outlook on life, then I would like to challenge you to make some time a few times a week and pursue something that brings you joy.
Your life and that of those around you will be better for it.
Until next time,